Breast Cancer Husband: How to Help Your Wife (and Yourself) during Diagnosis, Treatment, and Beyond:

Your Wife (and Yourself) Through Diagnosis, Treatment, and Beyond BREAST CANCER HUSBAND: How to Help Your Wife and Yourself Through Diagnosis been diagnosed with breast cancer, as was his wife, Marsha, in Silver also smartly examines the various treatments and suggests.
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He searched in vain for a A unique guide, like none other on the market-packed with medical information, practical tips, psychological insight, and coping strategies-to help men help the women they love through this trying time. He searched in vain for a book that would give him the information and advice he so desperately sought.

Breast Cancer Husband

Now this award-winning journalist has compiled just the kind of emotionally supportive and useful resource that he wished he had been able to consult-to give men the tools they need to help their wives, their families, and themselves through this scary, uncertain time. He draws on that experience as he covers in depth all the issues couples coping with breast cancer will have to face during diagnosis, treatment, and beyond. At last, with this book, the men who love them have a road map to help them through a difficult and unprecedented journey.

Paperback , pages. To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. To ask other readers questions about Breast Cancer Husband , please sign up. Be the first to ask a question about Breast Cancer Husband. Lists with This Book. This book is not yet featured on Listopia. Sep 20, Rebecca Mckenzie rated it really liked it Shelves: It provides a comprehensive look at what you can expect on the breast cancer journey. Feb 10, Jr rated it really liked it.

Breast Cancer Husband

Highly recommended to anyone touched by cancer. Jun 29, Vicki Haid rated it really liked it. Every husband out there support a wife with breast cancer needs this book! I can't begin to tell you how much it may hurt to not know some of the info in here. I bought about 5 books immediately after being diagnosed with breast cancer. I had hoped my husband would read it and glean a bit of knowlledge to our upcoming battle.

Alas he did not and he moved out after 16 yrs of marriage a year after my treatments.

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My battle was just too much for him to handle. I read this book before donating it to Every husband out there support a wife with breast cancer needs this book! I read this book before donating it to the local library. I cried, knowing had he read it, he would have had a better grasp and maybe our marriage would have survived. I hope all the men who read this give their wives the support they will need to win this battle. I won my battle 7 yrs ago and counting! Oct 17, Cara added it Shelves: A lot of people on Amazon said this was a really great book, and although it's not exactly applicable to my situation, I thought it might generalize.

No, I'm not a husband or even a guy, but I am a person who has a hard time saying the right thing or knowing what to do to help people. No, my loved one does not have breast cancer, but he does have another cancer.

I figured I could just consider it a guidebook for louts whose significant others have cancer, and take what I could from it. Surprisin A lot of people on Amazon said this was a really great book, and although it's not exactly applicable to my situation, I thought it might generalize. Surprisingly little transfers, though, and reading it was generally inspiring feelings of guilt and despair.

I guess men and women are more different than I thought. Jul 24, David rated it it was amazing. A close friend who recently fought this battle recommended this book, saying her fiance found it very helpful. For any guy whose girlfriend, fiance, or wife is facing breast cancer, I would highly recommend it as well. When the woman you love is diagnosed, there's a lot that comes at you really fast. This book provides answers to questions--including those you may be afraid to ask--as well as ones you didn't even know you had.

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A breast cancer husband has to figure out what his wife needs from him. For years, you may have skated by with sex, Saturday nights out, and the occasional box of candy. Now you'll need to come to a deeper level of understanding. Mind reading is not recommended. Nor will renting the movie What Women Want give you a clue, especially in the wake of breast cancer.

You may stumble along the way. It's like a marriage -- you don't do everything right, do you? Take heart -- it's not an impossible job.


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And your wife will deeply appreciate your efforts. He was present on every level. Don't-Fix-It There's a lot of confusion in the male brain about what it means to be a caregiver. In many couples, the woman assumes more of the caregiving responsibilities. Ain't that the truth. And at a time in our lives when we do need to give care -- when our wives are about to give birth -- at least we get a little training.

When our honey is heavy with child, we dutifully accompany her to childbirth classes and learn all about the father-to-be's Very Important Job: You know, just in case all those doctors and nurses forget to remind her. Zabora is one of the many folks in the health-care field who'd like to see an educational session or two for newly diagnosed women -- and for their husbands or boyfriends. Someday, that may be the norm. But right now, most men are on their own when it comes to cancer caregiving.

They may mean well, but they tend to jump to the wrong conclusions. And the number one wrong conclusion: They think a caregiver has to fix things. I don't know whether Mr. Fix-It is hardwired into our genes or drummed into our skulls, but this is one stereotype that holds true across the board. Psychologists, social workers, medical doctors, breast cancer survivors, and, of course, breast cancer husbands all agree. Guys feel compelled to "fix" cancer. We want to take it on at the basketball hoop, one on one.

We want to pull out a six-shooter and start firing away. Perhaps that's why we judge ourselves harshly as cancer caregivers. No husband can defeat cancer.

Ergo, we've failed to protect our wives. It's a horrible feeling of utter helplessness.

Breast Cancer Husband: How to Help Your Wife (and Yourself) During Diagnosis, Treatment and Beyond

Paul Byers, a journalism professor from Washington, D. But I can't take on the real issue itself. But that doesn't mean the spouse is indeed helpless. Carol needed her husband, Phil Gay, to be there with her.