Here, Inc. columnists offer ways to transform fear into success. By Kevin DaumInc . entrepreneur and best-selling author @KevinJDaum For many that's true, but great leaders learn to master their fear and use it to their advantage. experiences to fearlessly manage change and achieve your goals.
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- 35 Things No One Told You About Becoming “Successful”
- 5. They overprepare but they don't overreact.
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While getting excited about new opportunities and challenges, fear motivates me to be diligent and plan. Fear of a competitor can motivate me to think more creatively or work harder. While massive fear can be debilitating, ultimately I need a healthy dose of fear in my life to make me appreciate the challenges I overcome. When I sat for the bar exam in July , I was justifiably scared, because I'd barely studied. Instead, a classmate and I had been putting in crazy hours trying to build a company around one of the first successful websites for law and graduate students. To survive, we needed more advertisers--fast.
My solution was to practice triage. I skipped the parts of the two-day exam I didn't know, picked up easy points elsewhere, and hogged the pay phones during breaks, pushing advertisers to sign deals. In the end, I sold the ads, passed the exam and learned that fear can be an entrepreneur's friend. Forget what you can't fix, delay the less essential and focus on surviving just one more day.
Want to read more from Bill? Just like the hero in your favorite zombie apocalypse movie, the way that you approach uncertainty and fear sets the tone for your entire organization. I go so far as to say that fear is a four-letter word. I lost two key employees in the same week. My attitude as I faced this uncertain future for some of our crucial projects set the tone for how the rest of the staff reacted. If I indicated that this loss would be detrimental to the company, that belief would seep into the rest of the organization and paralyze our ability to move forward.
35 Things No One Told You About Becoming “Successful”
Instead, we banded together and used the changes as an opportunity to improve our overall project delivery and knowledge base. Eric Holtzclaw --Lean Forward. Want to read more from Eric? The correct price is the perceived worth from the customer. We are extremely lucky to live in a society with a system of money. It allows us to borrow, lend, and leverage. Our ability to scale our work would be enormously limited in a bartering and trading system. Earning money is a completely moral pursuit when it is done with honesty and integrity.
Our work should be a reflection of us. Almost everything is a distraction from what really matters. They are beyond a particular value to you. And you should never exchange something priceless for a price. Keeping things in proper perspective allows you to remove everything non-essential from your life. It allows you to live simply and laser focused, and toavoid dead-end roads leading nowhere.
We live in the most distracted era of human history. The internet is a double-edged sword. Sadly, most of us are simply not responsible enough for the internet. We waste hours every day staring idly at a screen. Millennials are particularly prone to distractions on the internet, but nowadays, everyone is susceptible.
Our attention spans have shrunk to almost nothing. Our willpower has atrophied. The Roman philosopher Seneca may have put it best 2, years ago: In his book, Deep Work: It takes thought, energy, time and concentration. Shallow work is all the little administrative and logistical stuff: As a consequence, the few who cultivate this skill, and then make it the core of their working life, will thrive.
You need to develop a complete disregard for where your abilities end. Make your vision of where you want to be a reality. I find great pleasure in having faith in the spiritual. It provides context for life and meaning for personal growth. Having faith allows me to pursue that which others would call absurd, like walking on water and transcending death. Truly, with God all things are possible. There is absolutely nothing to fear. And when we get feedback, we do our best to disprove it. Instead of seeking praise, your work will improve if you seek criticism. You will know your work has merit when someone cares enough to give unsolicited critique.
If something is noteworthy, there will be haters. Rather than being a reflection of what they could do, you become a reflection of what they are not doing. From a scarcity perspective, helping other people hurts you because you no longer have the advantage. This perspective sees the world as a giant pie.
5. They overprepare but they don't overreact.
So in order for you to win, I must lose. From an abundance perspective, there is not only one pie, but an infinite number of pies. If you want more, you make more. Thus, helping others actually helps you because it makes the system as a whole better. It also builds relationships and trust and confidence. I have a friend, Nate, who is doing some really innovative stuff at the real estate investing company he works for. He told me he considered keeping his strategies a secret. But then he did the opposite. He told everyone in his company about what he was doing.
He has even been giving tons of his leads away!
35 Things No One Told You About Becoming “Successful”
This has never been seen before in his company. But Nate knows that once this strategy no longer works, he can come up with another one. And people have come to trust him. And yes, he is also the top-selling and highest-earning in his company. You experience a difficulty and create a solution.
Musicians and artists approach their work the same way. I write articles I myself would want to read. Your work should first and foremost resonate with yourself. The perfect client, perfect opportunity, and perfect circumstances will almost never happen. Rather than waiting for the next opportunity, the one in your hands is the opportunity.
Said another way, the grass is greener where you water it. In most cases, these people start new relationships and end them the same way the previous relationship ended. The problem is you. I waited a few years too long to actively start writing. I was waiting until I was somehow qualified or had permission to do what I wanted to do. But you are never pre-qualified.
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You get permission by deciding. Your future self will either thank you or shamefully defend you. When Tony was 23 years old, six months after starting Linkexchange, he was offered one million dollars for the company. This was amazing to Tony because less than a year before, he was stoked to get a job at Oracle making 40K per year.
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After much thought and discussion with his partner, he rejected the offer believing he could continue to build Linkexchange into something bigger. His true love is in building and creating. A true pro works for love. Five months later, Hsieh was offered 20 million dollars from Jerry Yang, cofounder of Yahoo!. This blew Tony away. He would make this decisions on his terms. He thought about all the things he would do if he had all that money, knowing he would never have to work another day in his life. After reflecting, he could only devise a small list of things he wanted:.
He concluded that he could already afford a TV, a new computer, and could already go on weekend mini-vacations whenever he wanted. He was only 23 years old, so he determined a condo could wait. Why would he sell Linkexchange just to build and grow another company? A year after Tony rejected the 20 million dollar offer, Linkexchange exploded. There were over employees. Yet, Hsieh no longer enjoyed being there.
The culture and politics had subtly changed in the process of rapid growth. Linkexchange was no longer Hsieh and a group of close friends building something they loved. So he decided to sell the company on his terms. Microsoft purchased Linkexchange in for million dollars when Hsieh was 25 years old. A similar concept emerged in a conversation I had about one year ago with Jeff Goins , best-selling author of The Art of Work.
I made that mistake myself. Wait a year or two and change the trajectory of your career and life. Failure is something to be prized and praised. Failure is moving forward. How you set up the game determines how you play. Start from the end and work backwards. Then he set out to earn it. He won the game first, then played. No matter how small your wins along the way are, leverage your position! You have a high school diploma?
You know a guy who knows a guy who knows a guy? You get an article featured on some unknown blog? They fail to realize the brilliant possibilities currently available to them. This is bad stewardship. There are people you already know who have information you need.
There are people you already know who have capital you can use. There are people you already know who can connect you with people you should know. Instead of wanting more, how about you utilize what you already have? Actually, it will only continue hurting you until you learn to earn something for yourself. But real success comes when you take ownership of your life. No one else cares more about your success or health, or relationships, or time than you do. Your current position is ripe with abundant opportunity. Wish you were better. Success is based on having and maintaining a motivation worth fighting for.
You already know what they have to say. No matter what type of work you are in, it will be better received if you see it as an art-form. You are performing for an audience. Until you have this moment, it all seems like magic to you.
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You have no idea how people create what they create. After you have this moment, you realize that everything is done by a person intentionally creating a particular experience. Every shot, every set, the lighting, the costumes, how the characters and landscapes look, and how the whole film feels and is portrayed. It all would have looked and felt completely different based on the experience a different director was trying to create.
Thus, there is no right or wrong way. They are people just like you and me. The idea of imitation will become abhorrent, freeing you to create as you see fit. When you have five minutes of down-time, how do you spend that time? Most people use it as an excuse to rest or laze. By lazing for 5 five minute breaks each day, we waste 25 minutes daily. How we spend our periodic five minute breaks is a determining factor to what we achieve in our lives.
Every little bit adds up. Why can we justify wasting so much time? I was recently in Wal-Mart with my mother-in-law buying a few groceries. Why this surprised me is that my in-laws are not short of money. Understanding the value of one dollar is the same as coming to appreciate the value of time.
To thoughtlessly spend one dollar may not seem like a big deal, but it actually is. That frivolous spending compounded over a long enough time could be millions. It also reflects a lack of care about the details, which is where the true art and value lies. Not getting paid hourly challenges you to take more responsibility for every minute and every dollar.
The most powerful way to punch someone in the face is to aim a foot behind their face. That way, you have full momentum and power when you make contact. Thus, your punch will not be as powerful as you intended it to be. The sad part is, as momentum-based beings, when you begin to slow down, you start a hard-to-reverse decaying process. Research has found that retirement often:. But retirement is a 20th century phenomena. And actually, the foundations undergirding this outdated notion make little sense in modern and future society.
For instance, due to advances in health care, 65 is not considered old age anymore. When the Social Security system was designed, the planners chose age 65 because the average lifespan was age 63 at the time. He goes to bed every night at 8 P. He spends the first 2. He then eats breakfast at 7 A. He even walks around his neighborhood proselyting his faith and asking random strangers how he can help them.