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9 ways to manage your fear + anxiety—and become a more peaceful parent Trusting that our kids are not out to get us, but instead just figuring out how to live Raising our voice can be exhausting, so save your energy and instead use it to.
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- When Your Toddler Hits You: A New Perspective | Hand in Hand Parenting
- Raising a Non-Violent Child
- The Attached Family
He doesn't have any cavities. You're just saying no because you're mean, and so is Dr. Now Steven goes into full-scale wailing. Marge's pulse starts racing and her mouth gets dry.
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Not another scene, she thinks despairingly. She looks around and sees the store manager watching her out of the corner of his eye. Feeling desperate. Marge grits her teeth, grabs a box of Frosted Flakes from the shelf, and quickly throws it in the cart. Steven immediately stops crying, takes the box of Frosted Flakes out of the cart and holds it close. Marge feels defeated and resentful. There must be a better way to handle situations like this, she thinks to herself in frustration as she and Steven proceed toward the checkout counter.
How many times have you felt like Marge, wanting to do whats best for your child, but having your good intentions thwarted when your child resists? Have you ever thrown up your hands in frustration and said, "There's got to be a better way"?
When Your Toddler Hits You: A New Perspective | Hand in Hand Parenting
Kate and her husband Jeff have been working hard to create a more peaceful family. They have started the practice of family meetings where they involve their 5-year-old daughter, Wendy, in some decision making. Concurrently, they've set clear standards for positive behavior, letting Wendy know what is expected, consistently sticking by the standards they've set, and acknowledging any positive behaviors they catch Wendy in the act of.
As a result, Wendy, who has always been strong willed, is becoming more cooperative and less apt to engage in power struggles.
Wendy has begun to understand that nagging and fussing don't work with her morn and dad. Kate and Jeff have recently agreed to eliminate sugary cereals from their family's diet. Wanting to prepare Wendy for this before their next shopping trip, they talk about it during afamily meeting. When Wendy balks at the news, they hear her out but give the clear message that this particular decision is not hers to make.
Letting Wendy know they expect her cooperation, they ask for her "help" in finding new and healthier cereals. Wendy is thus prepared when Kate takes her to the supermarket the next day. When they get to the cereal aisle, however, Wendy reaches up for the Frosted Flakes, hugs the box, and says, "Mommy, I know what we talked about, but I really want Frosted Flakes. I promise I'll brush my teeth every time I eat them. Hearing what Wendy says, and wanting to validate her feelings without giving in to them, Kate says, "I understand how you feel, Wendy.
You really love Frosted Flakes and you'd love to keep eating them. You're hoping I'll change my mind, aren't you? I'm sorry you're disappointed, but this is the decision your dad and I have made," Kate says gently but firmly, looking directly into Wendy's eyes. Kate has made sure not to come to the market when they're in a big hurry, so it's easier for her to remain patient.
And here's one more," Kate adds, showing Wendy another box of cereal containing blueberries. Here's where Kate realizes she needs to let Wendy know her limits. You can either pick out another cereal now, or else I'll have to do it.
The choice is yours. Wendy considers her options. She realizes that nagging doesn't work because she's tried it before.
Raising a Non-Violent Child
Each time, her parents have been consistent in not giving in to it. Wendy thinks for another moment, puts down the Frosted Flakes, and says, "OK, Mommy, how about if we try these two? Wait till Daddy sees the new cereals you picked. I bet he'll want to try them both. Scenarios like this one are not only possible, they are probable when you have at your disposal the skills of peacemaking.
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Kate and Jeff have been using these skills to help them raise a more peaceful child and create more peace in their home. They use as their compass the following Seventeen Keys to Peaceful Parenting:. These keys are woven into every chapter you are about to read. As you do, you will discover how to integrate them into your life and the lives of your children. Like Kate and Jeff, you will learn the secrets to becoming a peaceful parent and raising peaceful kids. By reading each chapter carefully, doing the recommended exercises, and modeling what you learn, you'll help yourself feel more grounded in the principles of peaceful parenting.
When this happens, you'll be wellequipped to help your children:. Philosopher Norman Cousins said, "The starting point for a new reality is now. How do I know this? Because I've lived these skills and concepts myself as a parent, teacher, workshop leader, and author, and have witnessed their results over the past twenty-five years. My first book, Learning the Skills of Peacemaking , was one of the first to introduce peacemaking to the public schools. When I wrote it, I had no idea how it would be received.
To my amazement, educators around the country started embracing it and sharing it with their colleagues. Teachers and administrators were excited, saying it met a need no other book had met before. Learning the Skills of Peacemaking was soon translated into Russian, Hungarian, Romanian, and Portuguese, bringing the same strategies you are about to learn to adults and children in different parts of the world. At the same time, teachers began noting changes in their students, along with improvements in their relationships with loved ones at home.
As one teacher said, "When I first learned about peacemak ing, I figured it would just be for my students. But everything I was teaching in school made so much sense, I decided to try it at home, too. Now I have more time to teach because my students are getting along better, and at home my children are having fewer conflicts!
Stay there. Just hold her arm, gently, and be with her. You want all that negative energy out of her, not hiding in the corners of her mind, waiting to cause trouble. While your child is upset, it helps her greatly when you can be loving and calm. Your child can concentrate on letting all that tension tumble out. Or she may begin to perspire while she screams. Your child might arch her back in your arms, or throw herself on the ground. She might kick and flail.
Believe it or not, the more vigorous her reaction, the better the outcome of her emotional episode. Here are some of the things you can say, gently, interspersed with long intervals of simple supportive listening, when your toddler hits. I think you can have a good time here, in just a while. The emotional bad dream will be over. Staylistening to your child simplifies your life as a parent. You can trust that your child knows how to treat others well. She knows how to be a friend. And by bringing a healthy limit, then Staylistening, you help her to reclaim the chance to be in her right mind, free from leftover feelings of fear.
I went to the park one afternoon with the baby, my toddler son, and his friend. At some point, the friend tried to hit my son when he was on the slide. She arched back and wailed at the top of her lungs. It was a few blocks and I had the baby in a carrier. I softly told her these things. There was a moment where I tried to give her a little more physical space and she took off running out of the playground towards our home. The crying, holding and talking went on for quite some time, maybe minutes, ebbing and flowing. Additionally, I was intermittently attending to my baby and my son, who sat close to me with a concerned look on his face.
The Attached Family
We were now sitting on a bench and she started to tell me that she wanted to go on the swing. I told her that we had to wait until there were two swings available, for both toddlers, and she started to wail again. This ebbed and flowed a few times. Finally, I felt like we could at least wander over to the swings, and as we got there, the other kid left so she and my son went on the swings together, with me pushing. When it was time to go home, I asked them if they wanted me to stop the swing for them, or just let it stop by itself.
The girl said that she wanted the swing to stop by itself, and slowly, slowly the swing came to a quiet stop. There was something deeply moving about everyone waiting patiently for the swing to stop. As we walked home, she took my hand. When we got home she easily went to her parents. I took her mother aside and gave her a brief description of what had happened, and the next day I checked in about how her daughter had been that evening.