The Imagination of a Stay at Home Mom

Editorial Reviews. About the Author. I am a stay at home mom of two boys. I have been married for 21 years to a wonderful man. I grew up in Harriman, NY.
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It read, the degree of difficulty of being a stay-at-home parent is evident in a new Gallup analysis of more than 60, U. Non-employed women with young children at home are more likely than women with young childre who are employed for pay to report experiencing sadness and anger a lot of the day. Stay at home moms are easily susceptible to depression because of their life style.

Being home all the time, no adult stimulation, no intellectual conversations, cooped up behind the same four walls all the time, this can be a sad lifestyle for anyone. It is sad, but it does happen more often than you think. Worrying is kind of like stressing. New moms worry a lot about if they are doing stuff right, or if they already have kids and know what they are doing then they worry about how they are going to take care of this new baby while they have how many so other kids running around. Stay at home moms worry about everything. Bills, children, partner, friends.

Along with the feeling of being less than accomplished, can come the question: If a mother decides to stay home to raise her child, or children, then she is also choosing to lose out on income.

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This is the biggest worry for a parent. Budgeting becomes a must, less money to go out and do stuff, and less time with mom and dad because they are working overtime to pay the bills. This can lead a stay at home mom to start worrying about romance and her relationship. Does he still love her? Does he find her still attractive? Being a new mom, she may worry about if she is caring for the child well enough.

What products should she be getting for him or her, or what should she do if this happens, or is it ok to start him or her on this at this stage of life? It can all be a confusing, stressful and worrisome. Heidi Doggett, a year-old stay at home mother, opened up in an article on psychologytoday. I was so used to just doing grocery shopping, diapers and washing dishes that whatever social instinct I had previously wasted away completely. Imagine being home alone all day. Now imagine a person who does this on daily for months on end, they only leave the house to go grocery shopping and run errands, they don't get to see their friends, and the only communication is from their child who can barely speaks full sentences.

Not much of a life right?

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This is what a SAHM must deal with daily. Life can get pretty lonely, pretty fast. Yes, they have their child to keep them company, but after a couple hours of being around only someone who can barely form a full sentence, or just babble, they start to yearn for adult interaction. Then when their husband comes home, they are lucky if he has enough energy to eat dinner with them, or spend some time with them before bed, or even help them put the kids to bed. There are some men who work all day, come home and want to go right to bed after dinner, or play games, if they are into that.

The worst feeling in the world is the feeling of being unappreciated.

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A woman can do so much and never get a thank you or a good job from the people that matter most in her life. Some people more than others. There are some that are fine with it and just move on, others feel miserable and it can dampen their mood a lot.

Yahoo answers is a good site to go to if someone needs a answer, or has a question they need answered. One post written by a mom who was feeling overwhelmed with her home life and unappreciated by her husband wrote a long topic on how her life usually is and why she feels this way.

In one example she wrote:. The other night I was cooking, and I realized I had very little oil left so I said to my husband, I'll have to skip on some things I planned to cook. He blew up at me and said," that's b. Just because a woman doesn't get paid to watch her kids, do laundry, clean the house, and cook meals for her family, doesn't mean she doesn't work. Her job is her family and her house. Without her, the house would fall apart and not function properly. A little recognition now and again is good for someone who is at home all the time with the kids.

It shows them that they are cared about and appreciated. Melanie Fields, author of the article on skinnymom. She writes in her article: Having kids and being home all the time will change a woman.

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If she was once a well-dressed person before her kids were born, had lots of friends, did her hair and makeup all the time, and was always surrounded by friends and going out, well that will all change. Her life will be all about what laundry detergent to use, what to make for dinner, school schedules, and sweats and mom buns will be her now go to for everything. The only friends she will see are maybe the ones that also have kids. Other sport moms, PTA moms, or maybe the moms from down at the bus stop or park.

Play dates become her new exciting time out of the house. Sooner or later she will forget who she used to be, and she will have to embrace this new lifestyle and the person she has become. Resentment is a nasty feeling. It can happen in anyone and it can end a lot of friendships or relationships. When a mom starts to resent those around them, it can cause a lot of tension. An example of why she may resent her partner is maybe because she hates that he gets to go out while she is stuck at home caring for their kids.

Even if it is just to work, he still gets a break from their children. He gets to be around other adults, socialize and more. The whole time he is out and about, she is at home with the screaming kids. Cooking, cleaning, and taking care of them. Resentment has many different forms. Get fast, free shipping with Amazon Prime. Your recently viewed items and featured recommendations. View or edit your browsing history. Get to Know Us. English Choose a language for shopping. Amazon Music Stream millions of songs. Amazon Drive Cloud storage from Amazon. Alexa Actionable Analytics for the Web.

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It would be far too strong a word to say I have regrets. Although I am fully aware that being a stay at home mom was certainly a luxury, staring at an empty nest and very diminished prospects of employment, I have real remorse. The book spoke to me, and my mother and grandmother spoke to me warning me not to tread the path they had taken, leaving the workforce after their children were born. But the book and my mother spoke to a young ambitious preteen, not a young mother. Betty Friedan or not, I stayed home for almost two decades raising three sons. And on one level I felt like I was short-changing myself, those who educated, trained and believed in me by doing this.

But living in the suburbs among women of shockingly similar backgrounds, interests and aspirations, narrowed the scope of people with whom I interacted. In the workplace my contacts and friends included both genders and people of every description, and I was better for it. Some of this work was deeply meaningful and some of it trivial in the extreme.

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It is very easy to feel as though you are doing something whether it is sitting on a hospital board or raising funds for a nursery school. Volunteer activities involve a flurry of activity but, at the end of it, those who are running the organization carry on and your job is over. Being around my children so much of the time gave me the chance to focus on them at a granular level. And I feel fairly certain that neither they nor I benefitted from the glaring light it shone upon us. Helicoptering takes time, and I had the time.