How Loss and Vulnerability Generate Passion and Success Linda Simmons. This Was ' '51 to Be How Loss and Vulnerability Generate Passion and Success 3*.
Table of contents
- Because you're supposed to be happy.
- Souq | This Was Meant to Be: How Loss and Vulnerability Generate Passion and Success | Kuwait
- Selling a business is a loss--and MRIs show it.
- Tony Robbins on How To Master Relationships
Because you're supposed to be happy.
Upon becoming pregnant, we moms are so focused on preparing for the new baby that we very seldom consider how to navigate this transition and affect our own personal growth once baby is born. Most of us spend our time planning pediatrician visits, searching for baby items and interviewing potential sitters. It would sure be nice to have compassionate mom mentors telling us of pitfalls to avoid from the beginning of our pregnancy. Every mom get's it wrong before she gets it right, but many mothers still struggle with being vulnerable.
We must redefine who we are once we become a mother--all with less sleep, clarity and the greatest responsibility that we have ever had to assume.
Souq | This Was Meant to Be: How Loss and Vulnerability Generate Passion and Success | Kuwait
And it isn't just new mothers that struggle with having to constantly adjust either. Fourteen years ago, when I was six months pregnant with my first child, my mother had a conversation with me that changed my life. My mother explained to me that she had lost her own identity in motherhood.
While in pursuit of being a good mother she forgot to be kind to herself. She asked me to always take care of my own needs first a radical thought for a new mom and she told me that the best gift that I could give my family is a whole mom: A woman that liked herself, knew herself and respected herself enough to experience her own life.
This translated to weekly "me dates" where I learned to move away from all of my roles as wife, mom, business owner, etc. It meant that I had to get to know "me" and to think about my life.
Selling a business is a loss--and MRIs show it.
When we think about identity theft, we think about an impostor posing as another person. Yet in motherhood, we are the imposters in our own lives. And it is the result of the admirable quality of wanting to give everything to our children. We forget the most important rule of self preservation: Also, you share more of who you are with your children as you connect with the woman you once were. Making the decision to end the "Silent War" is a decision that each of us has to make in our own time and season. We get to decide what happens in our own lives.
Create a weekly ritual that allows you some time alone. Select the same day and time of the week and schedule this time on an ongoing basis. It involves uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.
Tony Robbins on How To Master Relationships
And that is why it might seem scary. Although we may try to run from vulnerability, it is an inevitable part of social relationships. Even outside of romance, vulnerability is something we encounter frequently: Opportunities for vulnerability present themselves to us every day, the question is whether we will take them.
Why do we fear vulnerability?
We are afraid that if someone finds out who we really are, they will reject us. While we may try to appear perfect, strong or intelligent in order to connect with others in actual fact pretense often has the opposite effect intended.
- Neurypnology or Advanced Hypnosis;
- What Do I Actually Mean by “Career Freedom”?!
- Why Being Vulnerable is the Key to Intimacy.
- Superfreakonomics: Global Cooling, Patriotic Prostitutes and Why Suicide Bombers Should Buy Life Ins.
- Error (Forbidden)!
- How Women Lose Themselves in Motherhood | HuffPost?
Research by Paula Niedenthal shows that we resonate too deeply with one another not to perceive inauthenticity. We even register inauthenticity in our bodies. A study by James Gross shows that when we are inauthentic and try to hide our feelings, others respond physiologically a rise in blood pressure. On the other hand, when people stick to the truth including avoiding saying little white lies , not only does their well-being increase but their relationships actually improve, recent research suggests.
- How Women Lose Themselves in Motherhood!
- Create a Magnificent Relationship that Feels Like a Dream?
- The Duchess of Wiltshires Diamonds?
Another recent study indicates that verbally expressing our feelings exactly as they are without beating around the bush may help us overcome emotions faster. The truth is that when we allow ourselves to be completely open and vulnerable, we benefit, our relationships improve, and we may even become more attractive. Why are we drawn to people who act themselves?
Because we feel an intrinsic comfort in the presence of authenticity. Moreover, someone who is real and and vulnerable gives us the space and permission to be the same.
Sure, vulnerability can lead to hurt. Brown explains that women often tell men that they want their partner to be vulnerable and to share their feelings but then recoil in disgust when men do. When women share their feelings, men often feel frustrated or powerless and want to find a fixed and pragmatic solution. Yet is it worth walking through fear and vulnerability to experience social connection? Next time you feel yourself close up in fear in a romantic relationship or otherwise, notice if you can make the choice to be courageous and embrace vulnerability.