How to Marry a Black Man: The Real Deal

Now, in How to Marry a Black Man, Mrs. Monique Jellerette deJongh and Mrs. Cassandra Marshall Cato-Louis share their secrets with women everywhere.
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I guess it's because they left so much to fate. They lived without seatbelts or bike helmets or car seats for their kids. Pretty wild people, huh?

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I put some of the recommendations into play. They help you to self inventory and to really write what you want. It didn't make me different, it suggested I do things differently. Men are men, regardless of skin color. This was nothing more than a clever marketing ploy to attract the black female buyer in droves. And some of the tips were insulting. I'm not a friggin Barbie doll, thank you very much. And I'm always suspect of pseudo-feminist black women writers who hyphenate their names anyway.

I Thought I Was Prepared to Marry a Black Man, But I Had NO Idea

This is a fun and deceptively easy book to read. But if you follow the advice of the authors you will find yourself getting your act together FOR REAL, and getting your priorities straight when it comes to finding the right guy to marry.

How to Marry a Black Man The Real Deal

Some of the exercises in the book are just plain fun, like the pink bubble meditation, and some are hard, they really force you to take a good hard look at yourself, no rose colored glasses! I especially like the "Word from the Brothas" sidebars because they give you a real inside take on the thoughts of men. I definitely recommend this book to women who are serious about getting hitched.

I Thought I Was Prepared to Marry a Black Man, But I Had NO Idea

This book gives great advice on the art of attracting and intriguing the opposite sex. It is not only for Black men but all men. I am happily married now for 2 years and read this book when it first came out. It helps you as a person get your mind around what you truly are invisioning in a spouse - what your core needs and desires are - so that you can weed out the good ones from the bad. I hope more people will read this book so they can get a better persepctive of the games we should play versus the games we shouldn't play - namely those with ourselves - delusion. See all 8 reviews. Most recent customer reviews.

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Marriage is celebrated and seen as one of the most important cultural traditions, not just for little girls, but for little boys as well. Those boys grow up to desire marriage for themselves, without guilt from potential mates and without coaxing from external influences. My belief that I could convince adult men that marriage was suddenly of value was severely misguided and up until the point that I acknowledged that, I had actually convinced myself that my efforts were noble.

I was dating men for their potential, not the realities of who they were and that was on me. The second item on my list was that I wanted the option to stay home once children were brought into the equation. This, for me, has never been negotiable but one thing I had to accept was that for this to ever be a viable option, a certain level of income had to be maintained in the household. A level that Black American men have been all but physically barred from reaching. Generally speaking, Black American men do not have the financial means necessary to support a household based on their income alone and to require that of a man whose ability to do so is limited by no fault of his own is inconsiderate and dispassionate.

I,too, was guilty of this. As we moved along to my third must-have, spiritual openness, the role I played in my dating failures was becoming painfully clear. Christianity is a huge part of Black American culture with 8 in 10 identifying with the religion. The discussion surrounding how that came to be is a conversation for another day but what we do know is, on average, Black American men identify as Christian more than their peers, attend church regularly at a rate that exceeds their peers, and say that religious commonality is one of the deciding factors in choosing a mate, which has always left women like me, who do not follow Christianity, in an awkward position.


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I was dealing not only with ignorance on the part of my spiritual beliefs, but I was also dealing with the unconscious bias that many have towards practices that derive from African culture. I continuously found myself having to defend my beliefs and humanize them at the same time. Could I eventually find a Black American man who would come around to understanding my beliefs? He says he is a Christian. I just want to encourage women to pray that God would lead them to a man whom they can trust as a deeply Christian man.

And the same thing, of course, goes for men. Find other recent and popular Ask Pastor John episodes. John Piper is founder and teacher of desiringGod. He is author of more than 50 books , including Desiring God: Meditations of a Christian Hedonist , and most recently Expository Exultation: Christian Preaching as Worship. John Piper Sep 17, Is God Mad at Us? John Piper Sep 14, Restrictions There are two basic restrictions on marriage in the Bible. A New Israel Another issue arises when we remember that Christ came into the world and created a new Israel, a new ethnic group, as it were, made up of every other ethnic group.

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