Healing After Death

Death is an Illusion. The soul never dies. We are all souls having a human experience, not the other way around. Everyone who is familiar with.
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At the end of the day I had a choice to make. Was I willing to genuinely look inside? Did I wish to grow from the experience? Did Mitch want me to carry the weight of his loss upon my shoulders until my dying day?

Did I want to swim in the continuity of life or sink in my own sorrow? Along your own path to healing after suicide loss or personal crisis, these nine suggestions might help. This means changing what you believe to be true about your outer and inner self-concept.

It means letting go of the old stories, beliefs, thoughts, and patterns that don't serve you and keep you stuck in the past. For me, the old stories, beliefs, and thoughts centered around suicide loss being my eternal crutch to bear, something that was going to forever limit my capacity to find joy in anything I did. When you redefine what you are capable of on the outside and when you reconnect to your higher power on the inside, you begin to unlock what is authentically you. When you honor what is authentically you, void of all past luggage and conditioning, you unlock a greater love within.

A connection that self-heals and plants you in the present with gratitude in your heart—that includes the life you have lost. By honoring you , you honor them. There is no separation. Your grief has intelligence. Let it tell you know it knows. Vomit it all up, don't wretch. Open the latch and let the dam spill over. Sometimes when all the tears are cried there is no room for anything else except a smile and laughter.

There is strength in vulnerability and healing in releasing. Talk, cry, write, shout, exercise, and help others. This lovely world of ours is a mirror. Your outer state is a reflection of your inner state.

What is grief?

Self-healing and self-love start with connecting to your inner source, your higher power. Meditation will create a clear, open channel between the heart and the mind allowing for them to work in synchrony. Where there is grief, there is also relief. You don't have to be spiritual or religious. If you are a skeptic and don't buy into what ancient traditions and great masters have known for thousands of years, and you rely on scientific fact, then look no further to what the world's leading neuroscientists and physicists are saying.

There is an underlying intelligence that binds this whole place together. You are not separate from anything else that exists on this planet. You are made of the same stuff! To think you are any different is the height of arrogance. To tap into its power, sit with it in silence. I have witnessed dramatic shifts in awareness within myself with consistent meditation after loss. I have come to recognize that I am not the thoughts in my head. I have become more aware of my own thoughts, as opposed to becoming attached to them. By no means am I master of this, but I am far better than I used to be.

Again, you have a choice. I'd suggest being brave and honest. A whole new world awaits you when you are willing to do the work. That is, be willing to externalize your grief, to self-inquire, and feel to heal. To face your hurt head on instead of ignoring it for years. That, I can tell you now, will come back to bite you at some stage. The wiser choice is to work with it, not against it.


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When you are willing to process the guilt, shame, blame, anger, depression, isolation, and loneliness, you begin to unlock your authentic self. You strip away the layers to your greatness. The opportunity to view yourself and this world through a new lens is available to you.

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You will begin to see that with grief there is also relief. You may not witness it straight away, but life has a way of balancing itself out. This greatest loss of yours can become your greatest gift. My life is proof of that. A question that needs to be asked after we have grieved our loss: Now that this has happened to us, what are we going to do about it? Am I going to use this loss to grow, learn, share, give, create, and love more? It's up to you. I've chosen not to do these things in the past and it led to a depressive state.

Swim with life as it continues on and grows or sink in the past that doesn't exist? There is something great for you in the horizon. This loss is your trigger, your catalyst to peel back the layers and discover what music dances in your heart. In the words of Dr. And your highest values lead you to feel grateful for the synchronous balance in life—both pain and pleasure, challenge and support—that brings you closer to fulfilling what is most meaningful.

There is potential value in every situation. Grief is not exempt of this. Grief is a part of life, and to exclude the balance of death leaves us in this lop-sided view of the world. Today we constantly seek pleasure, we seek support, and we desire acceptance. The trouble is that grief leaves us with deep pain and with a perceived greater challenge, and if you have experienced a suicide loss, the challenge cuts deep within a family context. In our case, a family of six becoming five felt like a gaping hole deeper than the Grand Canyon.

I now look at the sadness of losing my brother as the most instructive thing that has ever happened to me. Mitch taught me that my time here is limited and to go after what really makes me happy. To find my joy and share it with the world. His death was a reminder to have fun and not take it too seriously. I have no doubts he is celebrating with me. I know this because for him to not want me to seek the benefits, opportunities, and inspiring lessons in his passing would be to deny the significance and meaning I have found through the life he lived, and in his passing.

That's why in these times of challenge you need to remember to do the things that you love. You must endeavor to feed yourself joy. Things you love to do and things you loved to do with your loved one that's passed. Don't become the stale water in the pond. Seek to sit in that rubber tube and flow with the current of the river. It satisfies the emotions. What a nice article.

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I often tell people to write a letter to say whatever they feel was left unsaid. I have done it myself and it really does help. I also believe it's best to remember the person the best way you saw them. When I see my husband, I see a collage of him at all different ages, but mostly when we were young. You can meditate too, and think of what you want to say. I think they are listening. R Bernard - Sorry for your loss. Even though it was so long ago, he forgives you because you always remember. Thank You Glenn for this information. My dad past away 3 days after Christmas in I did not say my final good byes.

I did communicated with my dad. He gave me several different signs that he always does. He would smack me in back of head if I was not treating the ladies right especially my mom or the wife. Since I did not give proper good bye, he forgave me on that. I know he will always be with me because I'm a splitting image of him. MsDora - Thanks for that viewpoint about the title. I'm am actually having a lot of trouble with the title for this Hub. I changed it a couple of times.

I still have to work on that. I have to use something people are searching Google for. I'm glad you got past the title and read it. I'm glad I read the article because the title scared me a bit; however, the theme is not what I thought it was. I could see how fulfilling it could be to "recreate that persona and use it to offer a response to your questions. Thank you for this perspective. As you said, our lived ones will always remain with us spiritually. Thanks for following and welcome to HubPages.

It's a reality that departed loved ones will always be with us. Great article, Glenn, and well dealt with such a debatable topic. I myself had a wonderful experience when I visited my mother's grave and so had my son at the same time. Therefore, it was not just my imagination. I could easily relate to this article because I had lost my husband.

Though I might have lost him physically, I feel he is still with me spiritually. Whatever problems I might have, I share it with him to this day. That was a very good observation on your part. Sorry for your lose of your parents. Thanks for the vote up. What a great article, I like to think that my deceased loved ones can hear me, and from time to time smile down at me.

This hub made me think of the conversations I never had with my deceased parents and grandparents - I still regret that. Your suggestions and questions would be helpful in working through feelings and grief, but also inspirational for writing about that important person. You've given me lots to think about!


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    5. I'm sorry you lost your parents in such as short time of your life. I can understand how you feel because I also had older parents. My parents were 43 and 46 when I was born. Thank you for sharing this. I do not think of myself as wacky but I do communicate with my parents I talk to them and share with them the events that have occurred since they left this planet. My parents were already elderly when I was born so they left the planet when I was much younger than most people's do. It kind of bothered me, no, not kind of, it rankled my ire, when people would say..

    So when they passed on, left this planet, I decided I would talk to them and I do. I feel most closely connected to my Mother when I am working in my yard as she was able to make sticks grow. So thank you for sharing this so others may at least begin to think about talking to their loved ones. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. HubPages and Hubbers authors may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others.

    To provide a better website experience, exemplore. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so. For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: Stages of Grief During Bereavement Has someone close and dear to you died before you could discuss questions you had wanted to ask? Do you feel the need to have closure with a deceased loved one?

    Are you having trouble coping with losing a spouse? Would you want to have the chance to talk with your Mom or Dad who passed away? Are you still grieving the lose and can't let go? You can still visit someone after death by imagining it in your mind, and by scripting a conversation. You can ask questions and determine the answers by using your knowledge of their personality and of how they may have responded.

    You can recreate their persona, or psyche, in your mind.

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    It's as if you were visiting them to have a talk, even though they are no longer physically there. You can write the script of the conversation in your mind. Imagine Meeting Once Again in a Virtual Visit Imagine in your mind a meeting with the deceased and having a conversation as if they were there with you. What would you ask? What would you want to tell them? What would you expect in return? Do you need their approval on some issue that you never had resolved? The Deceased May Appear in a Dream When we have dreams of a loved one who had passed away, it's our way of resolving unfinished business.

    Summary and Conclusion You may not be able to learn about their past once they are gone, but you can still have them lead you with some needed guidance. Thanks for stopping by. This website uses cookies As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things.

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